Realising that the only way to move forward was through self-improvement, I felt completely overwhelmed and my self-esteem had plummeted. Despite the overwhelming challenge ahead of me, I knew it couldn't be worse than the life I was living.
I left the toxic relationship with two choices: give up, or build myself up while staying loyal to my values. I trained vigorously to become a certified life coach, quit smoking, reduced my alcohol consumption, and began exercising. I worked towards developing an unwavering mentality. Nothing was going to get in the way of achieving what I wanted to become.
The only problem was that I had no idea what that was. I had to figure out how to give my life purpose. How could I show my son the way if I had lost my own way? I eventually realised that I had acquired codependent behavior traits during my childhood. To sum it up, I had always put others' needs before my own, and my sense of worth was inferior to that of others. This is why I kept attracting unhealthy relationships.
I mastered the art of setting firm boundaries and now can spot a no-good person from miles away!
Psychology Today defines co-dependency as a dysfunctional relationship dynamic where one person assumes the role of “the giver,” sacrificing their own needs and well-being for the sake of the other, “the taker.”