Setting Firm Boundaries

Posted On Mar 29, 2023 |

How to set and maintain strong boundaries for healthy self-respect and self-worth

Setting Strong Boundaries


A boundary is a line that separates you from others. It defines your physical space, your feelings, needs, and responsibilities from others.

Boundaries are standards you set to show others how you expect to be treated. They will show others what you will and will not except as behaviour.  Without boundaries, people may take advantage of you because you have no set limits about how you expect to be treated. This can become emotionally dangerous for you. If people do not respect your boundaries then they DO NOT respect you!


Having strong boundaries tells the world that you know your worth and will not tolerate anything less than respectful behaviour. They empower you to feel confident in your values, whilst preserving your personal integrity.


Without boundaries, you have a good chance of confusing your needs and wants with the needs and wants of others. This can lead to co-dependency. Check out my other blogs on co-dependency in relationships.  It is impossible to enjoy a healthy relationship without strong and clear boundaries.


When you lack strong boundaries you may feel worthless, weak, or simply just not good enough destroying Your self-esteem. To set strong boundaries you have to first realise your own self-worth, you must be clear about how you wish to be treated by people, whether work colleagues, family, friends or partners. A simple guide is: you should expect people to treat you as you treat them. If this is not the case then it's time to set some boundaries!


So Where Do You Start?


Know Yourself- It's not always easy knowing what's going on inside your own head, knowing what you want and how you want to feel. This takes time and investment in yourself, putting yourself first can sometimes be a challenge, external influences and self doubt can make you question yourself. Take some time to journal your thoughts, write down all the things that make you uncomfortable or question yourself. My free 7 day journaling guide will help you get started, you will find the link later on. If you don't know what you need to change you can be dam sure it won't change. Get clear about how you want to be treated! 


Speak Your Truth- If something or someone makes you uncomfortable, say so. If someone tries to push you, don't allow it! If people do not respect your limits, then you need move them on.


Get Comfortable Saying No- How many times do you find yourself PEOPLE PLEASING? saying yes to things you really don't want to do, just to keep other people happy.  If someone asks for too much of your time or energy (or anything else), don't just go with it say NO. You are the most important person here and if you can't treat yourself that way, how can you expect others too.  Don't just let it go—say no, remember NO is a full sentence and requires no explanation.


Your boundaries keep you safe and comfortable, letting you interact with others on your terms. If you have a strong sense of self, you will be able to set boundaries and it won't take long before people realise they will not be crossed. 


What’s the connection between personal boundaries and self-esteem?


Let's explore!


Self-esteem is the foundation for you setting boundaries. If you have high self-esteem, you will be far more able to stand up for yourself and say no when someone is crossing your boundaries.


Having strong and healthy boundaries will give you a strong sense of identity and increase yourself-esteem. 


- When you set strong healthy boundaries, your confidence will be boosted in all areas of your life. This alone will be make you feel so much more empowered, in control of your life and happier. 


Are your personal boundaries in place? If they're not, don't worry—I'm here, and we can work together!


I see this so much in my work with clients.  

When you have a strong sense of self-esteem, you know how to set clear boundaries for yourself. You tolerate less and expect more, and that is exactly how it should be.  When those boundaries are respected, your self-esteem and confidence radiates. This itself ensures people respect you and your boundaries.

On the other side, when someone has high self-esteem and works on setting stronger boundaries—the weaker aspects will also improve. This kind of growth happens in all sorts of directions, and it's always exciting to watch it happen! This is why I love what I do....


Are you ready to set some real boundaries?

I love helping people set boundaries, this I believe is the first step on your personal development journey. 


How I can help?

I can help you find out just how to be happy!

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You may find my Improve Your Life in 7 Days journaling challenge helpful and when you sign up you will also receive my bonus 10 Steps to Starting Over guide to help you really keep the momentum of starting over.

As always, please know that, I am here for you, whether it’s a virtual coffee to talk through what’s going on, or whether you need more intensive support to move on from being in abusive relationship, you can schedule a complimentary, no obligation call with me.

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Emma x

The Empowerment Coach for women who want to transform their lives, become unstoppable and conquer the fears that have been holding you back from truly living YOUR BEST life.

For any questions please email me anytime


Categories: boundaries;, Confidence, integrity, self respect, self worth